Being home most all of the time makes siblings best friends naturally. Bringing a new child home can put a strain on those relationships as everyone finds their new role on the family.
EK and SJ are usually Calla’s helpers, the boys her protectors, and little girls her best friends. All of whom have so graciously allowed their ‘Mom’ attention to be focused on Calla. Most of the time she demands it.
Before Calla, I held Evie all the time, but that hasn’t been the case since Calla. She has demanded full attention for herself in learning to be part of a family. There are times when I’m holding multiple children filling love tanks.
Calla’s tank needed a big dose of love SO for the last months we have given her everything she’s needed especially all my attention.
I’m able to sneak time with each of my children when she’s occupied. They all know I love them the most! I knew this was going to be tricky so I prepared for it.
What I didn’t realize was the difficulty helping my new child and only grandchild know I loved them both. Calla has been so protective of my affection, she didn’t want me loving on grandson. Heart wrenching to choose between them. Sometimes Scott would take Calla so I could hold BC, but I had to choose her the most. That’s hard on a mama/grandmama’s heart. The choosing.
After holding me captive for almost 6 months, Calla was able to share my attention with BC yesterday. They have learned the my turn-your turn game. It’s beautiful!
And the icing on the cake? Her love tank is finally full enough to overflow on others. She’s able to give some away. Now THAT’S beautiful!!!